When either one of them becomes uncomfortable with the arrangement. Or when your son is 5 or 6.
By this age I'm sure your son knows about respecting his own and other peoples bodies, but you daughter will soon enter that curiosity stage.At what age do you stop letting girls and boys take a bath together?
I would say when ever you feel right--they are YOUR kids so you can do what ever what you want but if they were mine I would say around 4 or 5. And don't forget the fun isn't over you could buy a kitty pool and they could play no matter what the age. I would say that would be the best thing to do when the get older or even now so they don't feel like your taking away thier fun. And I'm sure you know this but never leave eitehr or them in the bath or pool unattended. That's so dangerous your almost gaurenteed death! ';) Good Question too.
Up to you. Or if the kids want their privacy. In the US, people are kind of funny with that, as if it's something horrible, to have reproduction organs.
6 or 5
Maybe when he's 6.
I think that's great! I would stop letting them take baths together as soon as they realize they have different privates. When the little boy realizes that he has a sister not a brother it might be a good idea to stop letting them take baths together because it might lead to questions that are not yet ready to be answered.
Ever kid is different. Probably around 5ish. I would just watch for ques that your son is noticing his sisters ';private'; areas, and is sort of interested/curious about it. If he doesnt care, or not interested at all, then no need to stop the bath time together.
my mother stopped my brother and I when I was 4 and he was 2.
I say 5, but if they still want to play and splash when there a little older then 5 you can all ways do the bathing suit thing...Works out prefect.
Good luck!
6.
Ussually at the age of 4 or 5. They have to know that is not a good thing to do with your sister when they are older! =] How cute, my cousin does that!
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I would say in about a year or so.
age 1 because at this age they learn alot
What you are doing is probably ok right now, but you're pretty close to the end of the window. My kids were almost 6 years apart, (son older), and it seems like I only let them do that a couple of times when she was very little.
Kids get ';streetwise'; so much younger these days, between what they pick up from TV/movies and what other kids at day care tell them etc., that if nothing else, he will get teased about it if other kids find out, even if he is still completely innocent. Another sign to watch for that's it's no longer appropriate is if you see any exploring/touching play going on, or if he starts asking questions about the differences between their bodies. If he's noticing, he's too old!
As you ';phase it out';, try bathing her first, and letting him ';help'; you from outside the tub. This way they still get to splash and play but less contact. Then while you are drying and dressing the baby, he can have his turn in the tub.
I found the following article on the internet through the link listed below with a more professional answer to your question that pretty much supports what I said. Hope this helps!
Bathing and Showering: Privacy Concerns
by Debra W. Haffner, M.P.H., F.S.A.M.
reviewed by Robert Needlman, M.D., F.A.A.P.
If you are like many parents, you may have questions about the sexuality issues related to bathing and showering your children. Maybe you find it convenient to bathe your young children
together, or perhaps you enjoy taking leisurely baths and showers with them yourself. But
probably around the time your children turn four to six years of age, you might start to worry
whether or not these innocent shared baths and showers are still appropriate.
Sexual curiosity
During the preschool years, siblings, whether they are of the same or different sex, may ';check
out'; each other's bodies in the bathtub. If you come upon your children showing each other their genitals, try to take a relaxed attitude. Take off your adult lenses. These are not two adults in a hot tub! They are two children who are displaying normal curiosity about their bodies.
Instead of reacting negatively or ignoring the situation, you can use it as a teachable moment.
You could say something like, ';I see you both are curious about how your bodies are different. ';Aren't bodies great? But they belong to each of us, and I don't want you to touch each
other's private body parts.';
Bathing with parents
Baths with a parent often present a similar opportunity to talk about appropriate touching. Some parents become uncomfortable when their preschooler starts to be interested in the differences between male and female bodies, or children's and adult bodies, or when the child tries to touch Mom or Dad's breasts or genitals. This, again, is normal curiosity; there is nothing wrong with it. But it is up to you as a parent to set limits: ';Those parts of our body are private, and I'm
uncomfortable with you touching them.';
In addition, simply teaching your child how to wash his own body reinforces this sense of ownership.You also can talk about the differences between adults' bodies and children's bodies.
Take cues from your children
In the next few years, your children are likely to become more private about their bodies, and they will probably let you know that they are not comfortable bathing together anymore. Pay attention to clues such as being unwilling to undress in front of each other, resisting bath time,
or seeming embarrassed; this is a signal that the time for shared baths has come to an end.And if you find that you are uncomfortable bathing or showering with your children before they are, you can simply tell them ';Now that you're growing up, it's time for you to bathe alone';--and
then just stop.
When your son turns six.
my situation was a bit different my kids were boy/girl twins and i think i finally made them stop around 5. most of the time it was their idea, and sometimes it was a convenience for me. Even being boy/girl twins my kids are VERY close and do NOT like to be apart. Keep a close eye on them and enjoy your kids being young and getting along, trust me it doesnt last long enough.
when they start getting too curious, then bathing suits for everyone!!!
no harm in bathing together, just the nudity can get in the way...
I've got a 4yr old girl, a 6 yr old niece, 8 yr old nephew... they all will take a bath together when they spend the night at grandma's house... but w/ their swim suits on
It's probably about time now. Your 10 month old doesn't notice anything, but your son will begin to notice the difference. It's just best to stop it now so he learns to respect his sister's body and his own.
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